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“Am I normal?” is one of the most frequent questions that I get. In most cases, the answer is yes.  There are some common concerns that often go unanswered for men about their penises, leading many of them to develop insecurities about how things look “down there.” Some men even avoid showing their bodies during sex altogether because of their perceived shortcomings.

It can be pretty embarrassing for a man to look at his equipment and think he doesn’t stand up. Here are a few of the most common reasons guys wonder whether they’re good.


1 What if my penis is curved?

If your penis is curved there is nothing to worry about unless you experience pain during sex. The pain could be a sign that you have scar tissue that developed from bending during sports or sexual play, causing a condition known as Peyronie’ s disease—you should definitely consult a doctor. In most other cases, if your penis curves slightly and you don’t have any discomfort, chances are your erection is curving because of genetics or imbalanced tissue. Years of masturbating in the same direction and with the same hand can also cause a shortening and stretching of penile tissues and create a curve in that direction. In these incidents, there are simple methods that can be used to straighten out your erection, such as balancing the tissue using straightening devices. Before you feel compelled to find a fix, consider the fact that many women love the sensations created by curved penises during intercourse. Talk to your healthcare provider about your options and check out for more information about bent and curved penises.

2 Should I have my foreskin removed?

Most of the male population is uncircumcised. The foreskin acts as a protective barrier of the “glans” or head of the penis and typically rolls back during erections. Men who experience pain or difficulty with the skin rolling back when erected may have a condition called phimosis. If you have concerns with foreskin, seek the opinion of a professional healthcare provider. The foreskin is a natural part of the male body that is often stripped from the penis in the names of vanity, health benefits or religion. Men get shamed for having a “sleeve” but it’s protecting one of the most sensitive parts of the male reproductive system. Education is key in shifting the public’s opinion about foreskin. If you have your foreskin intact, remember to practice good hygiene and clean its folds. Bacteria can collect within them and create a foul-smelling substance called smegma. The smell of unclean foreskin is what turns many partners off from wanting to interact with uncircumcised men.

3 What are these pimples under the head?

Pearl-like pimples clustered underneath the corona or “rim” of the head of the penis are often alarming for men.  These pimples are called pearly penile papules and they affect men primarily in their twenties and thirties. In fact, penis papules affect 30-48% of all people. The condition is pretty common among uncircumcised men, affecting 33.3%. They can vary in size from 1mm-3mm and can be clustered in a single row or double rows. Contrary to popular belief, they are not contagious. They are benign and don’t pose any threat to the individual, or his sexual partners.

4 Why is it discolored?

Many men may look at their penises and see a discoloration around its circumference. This is the site where the foreskin was removed and scarring is very common among circumcised men. Aesthetically the appearance of the discoloration may be alarming, but there is no need to worry or go to great measures to try to lighten it. The scar is a reminder that something that was once there has been removed. If you’re having a difficult time with accepting the appearance of your penis, talk to a healthcare provider about your issues.

5 Why are my balls different sizes?

Testes are like snowflakes. They come in different sizes from small to large and are often mismatched. It’s normal for balls to be two different sizes and the differentiation is of no concern unless fertility issues are present. Swollen and sensitive testes can also be a sign of disease. If pain and swelling are an issue for you, seek out professional help from your primary care physician.

As long as your penis is fully functioning, free of disease and not causing distress, you’re good. Talk to a sexuality coach or therapist if your emotional issues around how you view your penis are hindering your relationships.

Glamazon Tyomi is CASSIUS’ resident sexpert and a certified pro. Watch her put in work here.