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Each week Glamazon Tyomi answers questions from fans and clients. This week’s letter is from a man whose wife is frustrated because he can’t control how quickly he ejaculates, and it’s ruining their sex life.
Hey Tyomi,
I first want to start out by saying YOU’RE A GODDESS! I’ve learned so much from you and I hope you can help me with this personal problem I have. My marriage is on the rocks because I have never been able to last beyond three minutes after entering my wife. She’s been patient with me and I’ve tried to go longer but it’s not working. I don’t want her to cheat on me, or leave. How can I last longer? PLEASE HELP!
Thank you, Lionel
Hi Lionel,
Thank you for reaching out to me for help. What you’re going through is actually quite common, and it’s something that can be corrected. Premature ejaculation (PE) is a symptom of something else going on in your body. Whether it be psychological, physiological, spiritual or energetic, getting to the root cause of PE is the key to lasting longer.
Some common causes of PE are:
1. Performance Anxiety and Stress
2. Rushed Masturbation
3. Overstimulation
4. Weak Physical Stamina and Pelvic Floor
Your treatment plan for PE depends on the root cause. For example, if you have issues with your pelvic floor focus on building more control of your body’s movements. Hip circles, hip thrusts, half circles and undulations can loosen up the muscles within your pelvis. Yoga can also help with stretching your hips and moving the stagnant energy within your pelvis.
Performance anxiety can be remedied by releasing expectations for yourself and de-stressing when it comes to sex. Focus on creating mutual enjoyment that’s not focused on penetration, so you can build your sexual confidence and relationship. Let’s not forget the obvious, your wife is sexually frustrated. Communication is key here. She needs to know you’re working on increasing your stamina. Invite her to help you with playtime where you can practice new techniques, like edging. I suggest you make a commitment to not ejaculate for two weeks.
Take this time to learn how to delay your gratification, use masturbation to accomplish this goal. While masturbating focus on what your body is doing as you’re moving through your pleasure scale. If you’re moving close to your 10 spot, take your hands off of your lingam and breathe deeply until your body returns to its relaxed state. Then begin to stimulate yourself again. Edging helps you focus on the pleasure you’re receiving instead of in the nut you’re trying to chase. The longer you can edge, the more control you will have over your ejaculatory process.
Knowing that PE is a symptom and not a medical problem is essential to your improvement. Make a time to focus on what can be causing this issue for you and try some of the simple solutions that I have provided to you. If you need more assistance reach out to me and I will be glad to help.
With Love,
Glamazon Tyomi
