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Each week CASSIUS’ resident sex expert Glamazon Tyomi answers questions from clients and fans. This week, she responds to a letter from one of her YouTube subs (submissive) who desires to set his stroke game up proper.

Hey Tyomi,

I recently watched your video with Nite Ryda, ‘For Men: How to Stroke Properly‘, and I liked it very much. I’m interested in more information about stroking since that tutorial focused on three types of strokes to use when hitting it from the back. What other tips can you suggest? It’s a little embarrassing to say, but partners in the past have made comments about my technique, saying that it’s boring and needs work. I don’t even know where to begin fixing this. Please help!

James W.

Hey James,

I appreciate your feedback and honesty. The first thing you must know is that your sexual technique is a combination of things you’ve heard and experienced. It will be uniquely yours, so release any expectations that it will look exactly like this or that. Get out of your head and focus on giving and receiving pleasure. Take these things into consideration:

Use your hips to enhance the way your penis moves. Instead of thrusting with your entire lower body in a straight in and out motion, use your hips in an isolated rolling motion to penetrate. Practice rocking just your hips forward to penetrate deeply, and shallow. Another technique is rocking the hips back to bring the head of your penis to the vestibule of the vagina, anus or fleshy insides of the facial lips.

2 Play with penetration at different depths. Shallow strokes penetrate your desired orifice using just the tip of your penis. Mid strokes stimulate using only half of your penis’ length. Long strokes are deeply penetrating allowing you to enjoy the furthest depth of any orifice you choose.

3 Keep a rhythm when you’re stroking. Whether you count how many strokes you do before switching up the motion and depth or sing a song in your head, the pacing is the key to stimulation.

4 Most importantly, HAVE FUN and pay attention to your partner’s needs. If someone asks you to switch things up or expresses discomfort, don’t take the direction as a personal attack on your skills. Correction in the heat of the moment is the best way to ensure mutual satisfaction. All that is required is for you to be open to change.

5The only way to improve your stroke is to apply the advice given, which means you have to PRACTICE. Your skills and confidence will naturally improve with repetition.


I’ve said a lot here and I hope this helps ya. Stay stroking.

Glamazon Tyomi


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